Through a successful career developing and leading high functioning teams and out of necessity to get “unstuck” myself, I have developed and fine-tuned a process that worked in my life and which I’ve shared with other leaders to breakthrough and embrace the life that will have you living into your true purpose, gifts and talents. Those who have worked the very simple process will attest to this happening in their lives.
Here’s a brief summary of the process!
1. I’ll walk with you as you acknowledge and embrace the reality that something is happening, something is present, that’s causing you to feel the way you’re feeling. “Stuck” may not be the right word for you but it resonates and describes the spiritual, emotional, and physical state of a lot of those I’ve worked with. So, let’s not get hung up on the word, but let’s acknowledge that something’s “off” and let’s describe how it impacts you spiritually, emotionally, physically and relationally. Now that we’ve got that out of the way…..we’re on our way. This is often the most challenging part of the process and it’s important to understand that this should not be viewed as a negative acknowledgement but as a positive really good thing! This is going to be good because once you identify that something is there and name it, you’ve broken through the denial and are doing the work with the result being living a changed life in positive ways you really can’t begin to imagine. But there’s more to do so let’s keep going!
“It isn’t that they cannot find the solution. It is that they cannot see the problem.
2. Now that we’ve acknowledged what it is and named it, let’s now understand what we’re getting out of having it in our lives. Let’s find out what you’re doing here, in this current state of being “stuck”! As negative as somethings are to our well-being and whole-heartedness, we continue to allow them to be part of our character and our persona because we’re actually getting something out of their hanging around. They provide us with a justification for behavior, a safe harbor to sail into when things get rough, a place to hide, a place that validates us when none exists anywhere else and the list goes on. This part of the process is where we explore the nature of our relationship with that which we identified in #1. It’s important to understand this relationship because it uncovers our wounds, secrets and beliefs which are the sources of our behaviors, responses and our view of our purpose. This again will be challenging due to the necessity to look into some periods and areas of our life’s that we have skillfully stayed away from or kept hidden. But this part is necessary and a real positive, if the breakthrough is to be realized. This is getting real good now because you’re doing some really hard work now and getting closer to the breakthrough. Let’s do this!
“Start by doing what’s necessary, then do what’s possible and suddenly you are doing the impossible.
St Francis of Assisi
3. So, we’ve named it, we’ve identified what we get out of having it around, now we get to look at what life looks like going forward. Many studies have shown that as long as the pain of actually changing a behavior is greater than the pain of not changing the behavior, we won’t change the behavior. Along that thought process an ole sage once said, “If nothing changes, nothing changes!” But you don’t have to wait for the pain threshold to shift to the point where the pain of not changing is greater than the pain of changing. We can make that move now by looking at some foundational questions. What do we want life to look like for ourselves, our families, our teams, our organizations? Can we get there with things being the way they are? What are some things that can change, need to change? What’s possible if they do? What would it mean to you, your family, your team, your organization? Where is the power in your life coming from? This is where the breakthrough takes place. The ahha moment! It’s a wonderful thing to experience in your life and even better to see happen in someone else.
“The hero journey is inside of you; tear off the veils and open the mystery of yourself”
Sounds simple doesn’t it! It is and requires a firm commitment to allocate the time and do the work! It’s intense work and 100% worth it.
In the Hero’s Journey, Joseph Campbell lays out a number of characteristics that are typically found in the great Hero stories, stories like Gladiator, Star Wars and The Hobbit. These characteristics are similar to the journey many leaders and people are faced with today.
From the calling, to the questioning, to meeting the mentor, to crossing the inner most threshold, to the testing, to the trudging, to the breakthrough, to humbly acknowledging the fruits of journey, to navigating through a significant challenge, to embracing their real purpose and gifts of the journey these are all characteristics that make up the journey of most leaders and people. They are not to be feared but to be embraced as they lead us into new frontiers for which we do not believe ourselves prepared but embark on anyway as that is what we have been called to be and called to do.
The process presented above is an invitation for leaders, people, teams and organizations to embark on their own journey to the Breakthrough that will have them becoming and doing things previously unimagined.
If you’d like to respond to this invitation or have questions, please connect with me at: 408-410-0148 or firstname.lastname@example.org